Said then Done.

Episode 14: Do you really want to know?
So this is gonna need some input from you guys. I've got 3 situations here, all of which are sort of true in there own right. You have to answer the question, is it worth it? I give what I would probably do as well.

Situation 1: Friend out of the circle
Say you've got a good friend, who was your friend, but now they are out because of mean/rude things they have done. Your other friends and you decide to kick him/her out. You are willing to let them back, but they have a feeling now that we require some type of rules to be allowed in again. They claim coming back would destroy there own freedom. That person also has a boy/girl friend that hates us and we dislike him in return. This has happened like 2 times now. They have been a good friend with you guys for a long time though. So, do you ask to talk things over and fix it, or do you just let it go?

What to consider: Chances and friendships. I believe strongly in giving people chances, but you might think a 3rd chance is to much. Also, you have to consider how important of a friend they are, and how you would deal with the boy/girl friend(as you can just ignore him/her since he/she is stopping the friend from seeing you guys). You can also take into consideration how the friend would respond to your action of asking them to be your friend again.

What I would do: I would give them another chance. I would discuss the things she did wrong and let her back in, as would my friends if I told them what we talked about. I would try to ignore the boy/girl friend as best as I could. However, if they took the boy/girlfriends side way more often, or acted negatively to my attempt to repair the friendship, then I would move on.

Situation 2: Girl
Lets say you like a girl. Shes everything you ever wanted, and you think about her. However, she lives 2.5 hours away while you're at school. You only ever get to see her when you visit. The more you visit the more she talks to you and the cooler she seems, and the harder I try to impress her. However, you know girls make a big deal when someone has a crush on them. You made the mistake of liking her friend a year ago, and when she found out, a lot of friendships were strained for around a month. However, you fixed it, and cleaned up your act on top of that. You also know this girl would be no different, and if you told her or she found out and didn't return the same feelings, a lot would be really screwed up. Because of the way girls are, you might be friends again, but it might never be the same. Do you tell her because you'll be back for the summer soon, or do you live life never knowing?

What to consider: Her friendship. Sure you want more, but if she didn't you might never get to chill with her again. Or if you do it would be on awkward terms for a long time - long enough where you just stop being friends. However, you could also be getting with the best girlfriend ever.

What I would do: Destroying the friendship would not be worth it, especially so close to the summer. I would enjoy spending time with her too much. I would just chill until its obvious if she likes me or not, then forget about getting with her or make a move accordingly.

Situation 3: The Ex
My friend has an Ex girl friend. It was one of his longest, and probably in his top two favorite relationships. Just recently she started talking to him again. Now they talk and play games a lot. He knows she doesn't really go for guys and probably wont be hooked up with another guy for a while. But last time things didn't work out. They broke up remember? Not this ex, but another ex, who was also his other favorite, got stolen from him, and they've talked a little more again as well. Both breakups were painful, but he understands he didn't man up. Now hes deciding if he should be talking to them again. Should he talk to them again and maybe strike up a chance with the first ex, or should he not talk to them - forget any pain caused - and move on?

What to consider: The pain. If your not one of those people who can handle it, then you should probably not talk to them. Sure its messed up, but you don't want to relive the pain or have it start all over again.

What I would do: Since I don't care, I would probably still talk to an ex. I still do talk to some of them actually. Its just all good, the more friends the better. For this friend though, I would probably advise against it.